Men w/ Venus in Pisces

[southhand]

I have Venus in Pisces in the 12th house and on the 27th degree where it is supposed to be exalted. But it is intercepted and makes no major aspects, just a tight quintile with Mercury. I feel I can relate to both the positive and negative things that are being said here -- I can relate to the being sucked into the outer world, to never being satisfied with a woman of flesh and blood, etc - there is always this dreamy longing element, even though when Im alone with someone I give her all my attention, and I am often convinced that this is the perfect match. It's hard to put a finger on Venus here, it comes from the depths and it can pull at you like a vortex, sucking your whole emotional nature into invisible layers of emotional contemplation, or perhaps indulgence. The trick for me is to connect Venus to my Mercury, or to other planets when they are transiting, to get her out into the world, actively, socially, actually. Otherwise she is always floating below the surface and I am not fully there.
I also have Mars in Capricorn, so I guess that helps me ge to grips with my Venus. But then I also have a Moon Neptune opposition which definitely isnt making it easier for me to connect on the kind of level that others are used to. I sometimes feel there shopuld be instant telepathic understanding or everything is just fake.

[nester]

There's a Pisces Venus man on the periphery of my life right now.
I'm getting that boiling rage like I got with the Pisces Moon man.
Interestingly they're both long-term married.
The Pisces Venus man "collects" young vibrant women as contacts apparently.
He doesn't reveal he's married (nor does he make extensive attempts to hide either, I imagine if you asked he'd say he was. I know because I have amazing antennae and am a good sleuth).

He likes the arts, music, drinking. He has sympathy mostly for popular victims du jour (defined by the media, stereotypes) and if you aren't in that category he doesn't feel it. There's a wall there in terms of individual interaction .. he just can't do it. For example he seems to have classified America / Americans as bullies, when 9-11 rolled around this year there was not a peep of acknowledgement, sympathy, or curiosity, even though he knows I work for an airline and there's a strong personal reaction when I think of that day. It's somewhat confusing that anyone define themselves as "friend" and yet in behavior there's ambivalent, ambiguous, not-warm strangeness...what I notice is the lack of curiosity combined with voyeurism / titillation when someone's acted in a way that matches the stereotype he's expecting.

He has this attitude towards most of his "friends" - mostly wary, doesn't want to interact. He wants them to play a role. Cheerleader perhaps, or mannequin...

I'm sure he's somewhat harmless, perhaps even tender-hearted somewhere in there, but "zoning out" on a personal level is kinda unattractive.

[Advaita]

My progressed Venus (natal in Capricorn) has moved into Pisces early last year. It has noticeably changed my perceptions toward relationships and has made me more creative. I started writing (scripts, poetry) when Neptune was conjunct my natal venus about 15 years ago and stopped. When the progressed Venus moved into pisces last year I started writing again and this time its more about selfless love.
Capricorn Venus and being in the 12th house, made me 'seem' cold and rationalize emotions and love. Now, I 'feel' it more than rationalize. I have also noticed a LOT of women want to be my friends and talk to me. This has never happened before. I think they see the sensitivity and feel that I am more attuned (not my words, someone actually said that). Has this progression made me hopeless in love? kinda, but more creative and more trusting of the indomitable as well.

[cristal970]

the guy that im currently dating has venus/mars conjunct in pisces i expected him to be pretty passive in romance and love but i think the mars conjunction adds some drive and intensity he was the one to initate things..personally i love this aspect i like how intuitive they are and his ven/mars is trine my scopio mars so he definitely fulfills my needs there. Im ok with not being able to pin him down i think my venus in aries really enjoys not knowing if i ever truely have him! but when we are together and in the moment i feel like im the only one! i love this feeling and i really enjoy to live in the moment..the last guy that was pursuing me had venus in capricorn and i didnt like how he had to structure and plan everything or how he could feel that he could buy me with things..i personally think its refreshing to have someone that will not try to define things but just go with the flow and be in the moment. i think venus in pisces definitely have a hard time limiting their love to just one person as with venus neptune aspects its easy for these individuals to give of themselves and love unconditonally but its something that cant easily be contained. I have neptune trine venus and feel that this or the conjunction can add some of what its like to have venus in pisces and we need an emotional/creative outlet and can be sensitive, giving and forgiving yet sometimes gulliable in relationships..i find that i dont like to let people down and want to help anyone and everyone i can. Ive learned to set boundaries more as i get older and seperate whats best for me from whats best for everyone else..

[vel]

i had a Pisces in Venus man hitting on me ... thing is that he was married and I was in a relationship at the time, something he was well aware of but it did not stop him ... his sun and moon were in Aries and Sag and it was always push-pull with him, like he'd make an advance then step back, pretend nothing was happening and expect to be led on

he was quite very straightforward in everything else that he did, even pushy, so i was surprised when he made a comment once that it is typically the woman that lures in the man, but afterwards I learned that his Venus is in Pisces so it became much clearer why he behaved so strangely

[nester]

Just like clockwork.

The fellow I mentioned above got on the Haiti train. Compassion du jour .. what's the style today? Iran is sooo yesterday. We need to find fresh victims and empathize / emote with (actually, over) them.

I think it's in part that Pisces Venus is very susceptible to Neptune-ish media. Nowadays our tragedies are in updated-24-hrs-a-day technicolor-with-sound video. Only select tragedies with alot of dynamic potential though ..

It's almost like these events are becoming the new Hollywood "blockbuster". How many millions and billions are being made from them? Seriously. . . people have no idea where those mega-donations are going. Are they actually paying because being able to watch a tragedy 24 hrs a day is like watching a soap opera, getting engrossed with it, being able to purge themselves emotionally with it? They're paying for the service it provides?

I know .. those questions border on dark. I think this is the intermingling of Pisces and Aqua, Neptune and Uranus energy. Venus in Pisces being somewhat passive can drink it in without question, so sometimes they seem quiveringly compassionate and sometimes detached and cold as stone, they're taking cues from the environment whose main arm is the media ..

I wonder if I can apply this observation in a therapeutic way to my 12th house Venus? (be a more SELECTIVE sponge).

[venusinpisces]

(04 Feb 2009 15:37)isthmus nekoi Wrote:  Well, one of my best male friends has Venus is Pisces and has been with his girlfriend for years and years. Women absolutely adore him, but you can tell when he looks at her that he's still in love. His Venus is also square Neptune. He loves the arts and is one of the rare men that I know who isn't very political/ideological, but does regular volunteer work.

Another male friend I have w/Venus in Pisces helped me out when I was going through a really rough period in my life. I leaned *heavily* on him. I will always be loyal to him for that. He's also really into music, art, and poetry.

I don't think there's anything good or bad about Pisces. You can't generalize a handful of personal experiences and project them onto the whole world.

Interesting you mention this... I am a man with Venus in Pisces (as my screen name says). Also, my Venus squares my Neptune in Sagittarius. I'm involved in the arts (a freelance writer), and I read up on politics, but I'm not actively involved in political movements per se, or campaigns. Frankly, I find there can be more useful ways for me to contribute my time "politically".

Anyways, someone above said all Venus in Pisces men cheat, lie, etc..... that made me laugh out loud, mostly because it was in all caps. Of the few relationships I've been in, I've been devoted, and it's actually the woman who has cheated on me. And I'm not weak when it comes to relationships.

Someone else said that Venus in Pisces men tend to be the followers. Possibly, but here's my case: anytime I've initiated a potential relationship and have asked a female out, it hasn't gotten very far. One date at most. I've made sure I don't come across too strongly during the date, either. That can put women off. Now... when a date has blossomed into more of a relationship, it's only been when a female has asked me out. And I've tried several times to initiate, since I consider myself a bit "old-fashioned" in that regard (possibly my Mars in Capricorn), though I'm definitely not opposed to being asked out. The point being, not all Venus in Pisces men are "followers" as you might think (though I'm not trying to imply anyone was saying we were). It could simply be that Venus in Pisces men can attract women who prefer to take the lead in some aspect (no pun intended) of the relationship, or in the relationship all together.. It's just that on this thread, posts read like Venus in Pisces men are doormats. I'm definitely not. It's strange for me, since I'm used to asking women out, yet it only goes somewhere if the woman asks me out. Also, just an FYI, my Venus in Pisces is conjunct my Pisces ascendant line. I've been told I look approachable.... my Mars (Capricorn)-Pluto (Libra)-Saturn (Cancer) T-square prevents me from getting bulldozed.

So anyways, interesting thread to read.

One more thing. Not only is my Venus conjunct my ascendant, it's conjunct my Jupiter (Pisces) as well. Maybe my larger-than-life personality can be what puts some women off. Not sure.